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I've been in a similar boat years ago. I was working as a business development manager for a company where it legit nearly killed me. Won't go into much detail but it took me 2 years to finally make a change that i should have made immediately.
Money was a huge factor but mental health is more important mate. What i did was - i used 2 annual leave days and had a 4-day weekend. In that time i signed up with every recruitment agency & labor hire mob i could find as well as ringing blokes on gumtree etc chasing staff.
i did not care about the job i just needed some sort of an income until i could get into what i wanted to do. (my line of work usually consists of 4+ interviews and takes m 2 months minimum in the hiring process).
Couple of labor hire places called me back within 3-4 days and said we have a job we need staff on for 6 weeks if you're interested. I accepted, then I gave my notice to my current job and basically just used up all my sick leave as they weren't going to pay it anyways and that was that. Instantly felt like a new man after i resigned. The 6-week work was easy, stress free and served its purpose and in between i continued to apply for what i really wanted to do.

My advice is don't wait until its too late or at a point where it can take you months to recover. Make that change buddy and get out of there. Apply for Centrelink the moment you do quit, that benefit is designed to help people so utilize it. Also once you get on Centrelink, even if you're working casually you will be linked to a service provider. When you meet with them have a chat about getting them to assist with tickets eg. Forklift, HR licence, working at heights etc. Or look at study options through them if that's something you're interested in.

My mate used the help from his service provider whilst on Centrelink, they got him his HR licence, then HC licence, confined space ticket, working at heights ticket, construction white card and 2 others i can't remember the name of. All of this got him in the mines where now he's earning 4k a year driving a truck. Easiest money he could ever make. Moral of that story is use the tools given to you by Centrelink etc..

I don't know where you live but i seen underneath your avatar it said Central Coast.
Here are a list of labor hire companies i found in that area. Recommend ringing up every single one of them, make a profile with them and say you are actively looking for work. They don't need to know your story so keep it simple with them. Recruiters don't care if I'm being honest, its all about them getting placements.


Good luck mate, you got this!
Great advice mate, I agree with all of what you have said except the bit in bold. This is for me at least, I can't speak for other recruiters. Numbers don't concern me, it's all about starting someone's career!

Good luck @Blue_Eyes84 !
 

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My work has destroyed my Mental Health. I get treated like absolute ****. I can't do it anymore. Any advice?
I was there too. Work was absolutely ****ed and they couldn't care less about me or my well being. I couldn't even take time off when my boy was in hospital. In the end you are just a number to these guys. Given what's been said in other posts I doubt they have an eap program running.

Anyways my advice is get out as soon as possible. It took me probably six months of solid looking before I found a new job. The first week there was rough (story for another day) but since then it's been like a dream. I actually come home in a good mood and not feeling like I should just end it all. I firmly believe good management is the most important things and I finally have that for the first time in years.
 

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I was there too. Work was absolutely ****ed and they couldn't care less about me or my well being. I couldn't even take time off when my boy was in hospital. In the end you are just a number to these guys. Given what's been said in other posts I doubt they have an eap program running.

Anyways my advice is get out as soon as possible. It took me probably six months of solid looking before I found a new job. The first week there was rough (story for another day) but since then it's been like a dream. I actually come home in a good mood and not feeling like I should just end it all. I firmly believe good management is the most important things and I finally have that for the first time in years.
Regarding EAP, I’ve always found that to be a bit tokenistic. Some employers advertise it as a benefit when it’s really pretty standard.

100% agree about the management piece. The number one reason people leave jobs is because of their direct manager.
 

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Regarding EAP, I’ve always found that to be a bit tokenistic. Some employers advertise it as a benefit when it’s really pretty standard.

100% agree about the management piece. The number one reason people leave jobs is because of their direct manager.
Oh I agree completely. Just looking at ways which may help.
 

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Work will have your job advertised within 2 weeks of you leaving and a replacement usually within two months

At home you’re irreplaceable

If work is having a negative impact on your personal / family life I agree best thing to do is get out of there
 

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I was there too. Work was absolutely ****ed and they couldn't care less about me or my well being. I couldn't even take time off when my boy was in hospital. In the end you are just a number to these guys. Given what's been said in other posts I doubt they have an eap program running.

Anyways my advice is get out as soon as possible. It took me probably six months of solid looking before I found a new job. The first week there was rough (story for another day) but since then it's been like a dream. I actually come home in a good mood and not feeling like I should just end it all. I firmly believe good management is the most important things and I finally have that for the first time in years.
@Blue_Eyes84 read the part in bold at least 10 times. Once you've done that, read it again. It is 100% true.

Be selfish mate and look after number 1 which is you.
 

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@Blue_Eyes84 read the part in bold at least 10 times. Once you've done that, read it again. It is 100% true.

Be selfish mate and look after number 1 which is you.
They had me replaced by the start of the second week of my notice period. They are only about themselves. **** them. Put yourself and your well being ahead of these ****s.
 

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They had me replaced by the start of the second week of my notice period. They are only about themselves. **** them. Put yourself and your well being ahead of these ****s.
Absolutely this!

My job was advertised about 3 weeks after I resigned. Felt for the poor bloke who ended up accepting that role.
 

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They had me replaced by the start of the second week of my notice period. They are only about themselves. **** them. Put yourself and your well being ahead of these ****s.
Absolutely this!

My job was advertised about 3 weeks after I resigned. Felt for the poor bloke who ended up accepting that role.
Tbf even good businesses do this, though.
 
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